Queer parent to a newborn? Expecting?

I wrote a talk just for you.

We have some faces in our community - welcome! I am so glad you found us! CQP isn’t just a blog or newsletter — it’s a community and growing library of resources, reflections, and real conversations for queer parents navigating big decisions and small moments with intention.

If you’re just starting to explore, check out the Start Here page for a guide to resources by parenting stage, or dive into some foundational posts like “Embodying the Parent You Want to Be - So You Can Savor the Little Moments Today & Lay the Foundation for a Fulfilling Future” and “Annual Reflections for Queer Families: Questions to Realign and Reimagine” to get a sense of the core values behind conscious queer parenting.

Today, I’m sharing a talk I created for the Bump to 1st Birthday Summit — and in parenting spaces where queer representation is often missing, I wanted you to feel seen.

Becoming a parent is a huge life transition — and for queer parents, there’s often an added layer of complexity.

One minute, you’re full of joy — dreaming about who this little person will be, feeling their tiny kicks, or watching them discover the world for the first time.

The next, your mind is somewhere else:

Am I prepared enough? Should I have done more tummy time today? Did I read to them enough today? Am I doing enough to give them the best start - or am I just exhausting myself on stuff that won’t even matter in the long run?

It’s hard to stay in the moment when your brain is busy writing to-do lists alongside trying to navigate new roles and responsibilities in your partnership.

And on top of all that standard new parenting stuff, parenting as a queer person can carry its own unique weight too.

It’s the complex feelings about biology ..

Its the unexpected moments that steal your joy, or bracing for them — the absence where excitement should have been when you shared your pregnancy news, or the in-law who won’t say grandparent.

It’s the first time a stranger asks if your baby has “dad’s curls” - while you were just debating whether avocado or sweet potato would be a safer bet for your baby’s first solid food, - …you’re suddenly pulled into that inner dialogue— Do I say something? Do I let it go? And if I let it go now… what will I be teaching them when they’re old enough to understand?

So whether you are:

…expecting your first child and imagining what kind of parent & partner you want to be

…navigating life with a baby and trying to figure out how to balance the mental, emotional and physical load while still enjoying this time

This is a unique time to lay the groundwork for the family culture you want to build for your child’s whole life. So you can be fully present for the little moments now — while also feeling confident that how you’re showing up is shaping your child’s lifelong sense of self-worth.

In this talk, I am teaching a simple 4-step process to build a family culture of pride, belonging, and joy — on purpose, from the start, so you can handle whatever comes your way.

Join me!

🌈Raising Kids, Redefining Family: How Queer Parents Can Build a Culture of Pride, Belonging, and Joy

📅 Live May 1 | Available for 48 hours | Free to attend

P.S. Can’t wait for a deeper dive? Check out my favorite posts for this stage: From Tasks to Teamwork - where you prepare for the new stage ahead with your partner. And Parenting Without a Crystal Ball: Embracing Mistakes with Grace and Growth - because decisions come fast and furious with a newborn, and its hard to know what makes an impact and what doesn’t.

P.P.S - These talks have been such a joy to create—and they’ve sparked something new. I’m dreaming up a summit of my own soon: “Becoming a Queer Parent.” If you’ve been craving more spaces like this—where queerness is centered, complexity is honored, and parenting is treated as deeply transformational—you’re going to love what’s coming. 💌